chapter6 question1

Of the 3 patterns of dominance I think it's a tie between competitive symmetry and submissive symmetry. They are opposite sides of the same coin. Being really submissive or really dominant are extremely difficult characteristics to overcome and for many are traits fundamental to one's personality. When someone falls into the extreme of either pattern, it's possible to lessen or soften the extreme but not entirely eliminate those characteristics. And I think in adult relationships either competitive symmetry or submissive symmetry are relationship killers because compromise is the part of the foundation of a healthy relationship. It would take a lot of counseling and a willingness to change a fundamental part of one's personality and I personally don't see that happening with the majority of adults. I think those who have submissive symmetry in their relationship would have their self-esteem hurt the most. I perceive extremely dominant personalities as a bit self involved and inflexible enough to feel justified in their behavior. Whereas submissive people I feel are more sensitive and therefore more likely to have their self-esteem damaged as a result of their submissive symmetry.