Friday, April 17, 2009
chapter6 question2
There's a fairly long list of things I theoretically would dismiss in a potential partner but in the proper context I might consider. For example, I'm a Leo and would characterize myself as independent whereas my husband, who is a Cancer, can be a bit clingy. Ordinarily I wouldn't be interested in someone like that, but we've managed to work though that particular character flaw (lol) In the past I've eliminated men as potential dating partners due to preinteraction cues such as their physical appearance. I don't think I'm shallow but at times I've felt some people in San Francisco try, and succeed at looking as ugly as possible. Being a native New Yorker this is not acceptable to me. But once this guy looked kinda trashy in appearance but upon talking with him I found we shared common interests and values.
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I can relate relocating to another area and having a different perspective then locals since am a new person in town. Yes, New York does pose some pretty high standards due to the mass amount of people in the city and state. The city thrives on fashion and this has been part of you life so coming to a place like the Bay Area, yes I can see where your expectations are put to the test and you start eliminating people that are not potential qualifiers to you. I don't think it has anything to do with being shallow but it is a more laid back and different culture that carries a sense of comfort on a daily basis. When I leave SF and visit NY I often find myself opening my process of elimination and accepting more people as potential romantic partners.
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